Aspergers and Communication

The Abraham video 'Never Settle for Sameness' (posted below) seemed to call out to me as a reminder that feels particularly relevant for me right now. Being allowed to express in my own way and meeting my own needs in all circumstances feels vital more than ever in this sensitive phase I'm going through. I'm experiencing weird communication blocks or misunderstandings around me lately, mainly due to expectations, perceptions and interactions with others. It may also have something to do with having Aspergers Syndrome and therefore not being 'wired' the same way as so called 'normal' people or neurotypicals, which although undiagnosed I can totally relate to in describing how I am, and the challenges I often face. I'm reluctant to use any labels and especially Aspergers because there is so much wrong information about it on the internet. If I told a friend and they were to look it up and assume I have no empathy, it would be so opposite of who I am - Miss Intensity- because I feel too much rather than too little. This has nothing to do with loving drama or being too serious, by the way. How I communicate feeling verbally is another matter entirely. I assume that people can know how I feel by reading my mind or my energies. I was initially relieved when I read that 1% of the world population has Aspergers too, but have felt a bit concerned about it ever since that first feeling of relief that I wasn't alone in this. Still, I've said it, and I'm out of the closet at least. And if people think I'm weird or crazy anyway, one more label isn't going to make too much difference to me (or them).



Communication is a theme that is running through my life right now, or the lack of accurate communication from others A good example is Christmas. I told my sister as far back as November that I'm not doing Christmas this year, and didn't even send out any cards. She has just phoned to ask about meeting up with me to bring my Xmas presents over, and I could detect no warmth at all behind her words (just a deadness that didn't feel particularly friendly or close) so I expect the phone call was just an attempt to make me feel guilty for not doing Christmas, which she had ample notice about. For me, it has always been the energies behind the words that communicate the loudest, and I have since birth been able to feel the energies behind language when talking to someone, and assumed everyone else could pick up on that too.



A neighbour recently asked me if I was spending Christmas here alone and invited me to spend Christmas with her and her family. I was really touched by this act of friendship but didn't want her to invite me out of concern for me, as in feeling sorry for me, because I didn't see myself as being unable to cope with the holiday season alone, nor in there being anything wrong with doing that. If she was inviting me because she wanted me to be there, because it would be fun, then that is different. Yet the energies behind the invite felt like one of being rescued from a fate worse than death, so I was initially confused by this. My hesitation was compounded by the fact that I was wondering how her family and the relatives that would also be coming, would feel about my appearance on a day that felt like it was devoted to private family gatherings. Christmas to me has always felt like it was about that, and I suppose I was just wanting to know if the others were ok with me turning up too. Lastly, I was thinking aloud about it being too late in the year to book a trip abroad (something I'd been considering previously) and so thought I was confirming that yes, I would definitely like spend the day with her. I never got around to actually verbalising it though as she was walking away by then, and said she would phone me nearer the time, but looked a bit upset as she dashed off.

I bumped into her a second time before Christmas in the street, and I mentioned that I don't recall having given her a definite answer about Christmas yet. I knew I was not quick enough to respond or seeming appreciative enough of her offer, as various streams of thought had been going through my mind before I could open my mouth with an answer, making me look too hesitant or appearing evasive as if wanting to say no. The opposite was true, and I thought it was a great idea. Even if I'd just joined her briefly for a Xmas drink it would have been great. But she quickly ran off again saying that she would phone me later on, and apologised for not having had the time to call yet. She never did. In fact I could tell by the energies behind her words that she wasn't going to. If she had changed her mind, then that is fine. I just wish people would communicate what they mean and mean what they say. It would have been better not to have invited me at all in the first place than to make such a gesture and not follow through or not communicate that plans had changed. I'm not attached to outcomes but I do appreciate the communication part so I know where I am.

As it got nearer to Christmas day I wasn't sure whether to buy anything to bring over for her and her family as I didn't want to arrive empty handed. It was confusing not knowing what was happening, even though not really surprised that nothing did. I try not to impose or put anyone in a corner by keeping them to what they had said or reminding them, but I haven't a clue half the time what is happening when others don't always bother to communicate. Saying one thing and doing something else is different from not communicating anything at all. (I'm only using these examples by way of illustration rather than creating issues where there are none).

I sometimes don't communicate at all if I feel out of vibrational alignment or emotional balance. I then choose not to take any action, including communication, until I am back in vibrational balance and harmony again. If I don't have a full enough understanding of a situation, where there is a lack of information or the energies don't feel right, or things are not what they initially seemed, then I usually pull out of a situation or shut myself off from those people or circumstances until I get the green light to take any action. I tend to feel my way through life. But I usually take people literally and assume they mean what they say, unless they say differently later.

Verbal communication doesn't seem to mean anything to anyone any more. It has become devalued like our monetary currency, and doesn't buy as much as it used to. The 3D world is becoming more confusing by the day. I don't know the rules any more, if I ever did.

My responses don't seem to always translate well in the neurotypical world , so people tend to want to fill in the gaps with their own interpretations or projections rather than just ask me. Am I really that unapproachable, or is it just laziness? It only bothers me in so far as being misunderstood and not truly known.

There are also my special needs to take into account when it comes to certain social situations. When those needs are ignored or the energies don't feel right for me to proceed, it can feel stressful unless I can be heard and my needs honoured, or else I just shut myself off from others until further notice. A meltdown or outburst can happen when too many energies of others get into the mix and cause an overload on my sensitive neurology, like plugging in too many electrical appliances and then blowing a fuse. Being an energy empath doesn't help reduce the intensity either, and it was usually automatic for others' energies to be carried by me until problems were resolved or the energies transmuted, whether those energies were coming from people I know, my immediate environment or from mass consciousness in general. It is an automatic physiological event first, and when overloaded I short-circuit. Then my emotions follow suit in response to the meltdown or the intensity I'm experiencing in my nervous system. It sometimes takes my body two weeks to get back to a state of balance and homeostasis. I've since researched that it is the hypothalamus that is malfunctioning when it takes this long to recover from any stressor, and is part of chronic fatigue syndrome, which I've had. Sleep patterns are also affected, along with being generally dysfunctional until the body recovers slowly by itself.

I am now consciously and deliberately not taking on any more energies that are not mine. It was automatic before, just like breathing. With the first phase of ascension over, there is no need to transmute dense energies like before, such as the unprocessed fears and anxieties of mass consciousness, as the two worlds are now parting so that function of being a cosmic and planetary energy recycling bin now seems redundant, thank goodness.

I don't know where these labels like Aspergers come into it all, or if I even want to adopt them as being mine, but perhaps being an early Indigo and now (these past few months) realising I also share many symptoms and challenges of Aspergers Syndrome, makes me wonder if we are not sometimes talking about similar phenomena that just have different labels attached to them in the metaphysical/spiritual world and in the psychology/medical world. In the medical 3D world I would be seen as someone with a disability, but the way I see it is that I'm merely wired differently in preparation for a new world that has yet to catch up. Whatever the terminology used or the judgements that follow, I'm certain I don't want psychotherapy to make me 'normal.' It is challenging at times when I can't act in socially appropriate ways, or even know what those ways are, but I do actually have good self-esteem due to many years of inner work in spirituality and metaphysical healing. My social isolation was never about any lack of confidence in myself as a person, but more a consequence of the ascension process, my growing independence and self-sufficiency and my disillusionment with seeking outside of myself for distractions that were becoming less satisfying.


So although I felt reluctant to come out about my Aspergers, my first notion of difference had more to do with being born an early Indigo child with a mission to change the planet and mass consciousness via the ascension process. In fact the ascension process is my main obsession. Although I hate labels I'm less concerned about metaphysical ones than medical sounding ones. The medical and psychology world is not understanding and seeing the bigger picture, and everything that doesn't conform with the majority of the population is treated as needing fixing with medication or psychotherapy. Yet what is happening is that the Earth and humanity are evolving beyond this dimension of consciousness, as well as becoming more multidimensional, and a large percentage of the population need to catch up with an evolving and ascending planet where the old ways and rules no longer work. Medication is not the answer. And as far as ascension goes, there isn't a pill you can pop for that.


Society these days is drowning in labels - autism, AS, ADD, ADHD. I guess if I was being born for the first time now and knew Earth was ascending out of 3D I would prefer to hang out in the other dimensions too. And language is also something we are evolving out of, although probably not for a while yet. These children do seem to be more multidimensional, telepathic, emotional sensitive and wired for the higher dimensions. They also seem to pick up on others' energies or feelings rather than language, and will need their safe space to be themselves, and their OWN particular needs to be met for their sense of wellbeing, which will not look the same as the needs of neurotypicals. When I think of how challenging it felt for me as a child and still often gdoes, and I've been around on Earth for much longer to adapt to 3D earth energies and social adaptation, I can only imagine how it must feel for these hypersensitive children arriving on the planet now and having to endure the old educational system along with a more toxic and over stimulating environment. I was looking around for a few channels or extracts to share about autism and indigo or crystal children. It all feels related, and is a subject relevant to the ascension process in general.

This is a channelled extract from the Q and A about autism byTobias through Geoffrey Hoppe:


AUTISM QUESTION FROM SHAUMBRA 1: Tobias, we were wondering if the large number of children being given the label of “autistic” are Shaumbra who are having trouble adjusting to the New Energies? Our grandson is almost three and has been labeled “autistic.” We have felt since his birth that he was Shaumbra. Any suggestions as to what we could do to help these children hold their own and adjust to the energies that seem overwhelming to them?

TOBIAS: Indeed, so many of the enlightened ones who come in now at this time – who choose you as parents – come in with no base of karma. They come in so open and clear. But yet they are so sensitive, and they are profoundly affected by all of the vibrations around them. They are so sensitive that it throws them out of balance at times, and they cannot hold their focus in this world as a human.

So many of them have chosen you as parents, and guides, and teachers. They know your energy. Your energy, will nurture them, will protect them. They are so open, and they are feeling. But, yet they are having difficulty in adjusting to everything around them. It is important that they feel safe. This will help to ground them more than anything. Talk to them. Talk to them about the safe space that you are creating together with them. Talk to them about grounding themselves in the love of Gaia… Gaia, such a precious, precious spirit in herself, such a nurturing and loving spirit. Have them ground themselves in Gaia. Have them imagine themselves as a tree of life with the roots going firmly into Gaia and the branches opening up to the energies from the heavens. Yes, this combination of grounding and bringing in the divine energy will help with this.

They knew that they chose a difficult role when they came back into this world as opened and clear humans. And, they do need your constant reassurance… oh, especially when they are acting out. They want to know, in a sense, that you will always be there for them no matter what type of feelings they go to. So, yes, indeed this dear one you mention is Shaumbra… Shaumbra, meaning family from home, family who has been together before, who was been on a journey to bring the Divine Human energy to Earth at this time. Shaumbra is not a group that you need to join. It simply means we have been together before, and we walk a common path, and we allow the Spirit to unfold while in human form on Earth.

And here is an extract about Indigo and Crystal children

The Indigo Children have been incarnating on the Earth for the last 100 years. The early Indigos were pioneers and wayshowers. After World War II, a significant number were born, and these are the Indigo adults of today. However, in the 1970s a major wave of Indigos was born, and so we have a whole generation of Indigos who are now in their late twenties and early thirties who are about to take their place as leaders in the world. Indigos continued to born up to about 2000, with increasing abilities and degrees of technological and creative sophistication.

The Crystal Children began to appear on the planet from about 2000, although some date them slightly earlier. These are extremely powerful children, whose main purpose is to take us to the next level in our evolution, and reveal to us our inner power and divinity. They function as a group consciousness rather than as individuals, and they live by the" Law of One" or Unity Consciousness. They are a powerful force for love and peace on the planet.

The Indigo and Crystal Adults are composed of two groups. Firstly, there are those who were born as Indigos and are now making the transition to Crystal. This means they undergo a spiritual and physical transformation that awakens their "Christ" or "Crystal" consciousness and links them with the Crystal children as part of the evolutionary wave of change.

The second group is those who were born without these qualities, but have aquired or are in the process of aquiring them through their own hard work and the diligent following of a spiritual path. Yes, this means that all of us have the potential to be part of the emerging group of "human angels".

The Nature of Multi-Dimensionality

Until fairly recently, all humans born on Earth were born as Third Dimensional beings. This means that they were fully in the material plane or realm, and their consciousness was "locked" into the Third Dimension. They functioned on the first three chakras, the material, the emotional and the mental. Where there was spirituality, it was usually seen as something outside or other than normal every day functioning.

The Indigo children arrived with the key to multi-dimensionality. They were born into Third Dimensional bodies, but their consciousness was effectively in the Fourth Dimension and capable of moving into the Fifth. When this "wave" of Indigo consciousness arrived on the planet in the early 1970s, the way was opened for all humans and the planet itself to shift into the Fourth Dimension. At the Fourth Dimensional level of Consciousness, humans become aware of the Universal Law of One, otherwise known as "Unity Consciousness". This Law states that we are all One, we are all connected and that whatever affects one of us affects all of us. Indigo children carry this awareness in their consciousness, and it leads them to be warriors for many causes that will heal the Earth and stop humans from destroying and polluting their environment and harming other humans.

The Law of One also fosters the understanding in Indigo beings that we are all equal, and that no one is greater than any other. This group consciousness and group awareness is the path to the future for humans. We will learn to function co-operatively and for the good of all if we are to create the New Earth that we desire. Indigos respect the talents and abilities of each individual, but these talents do not make any one greater than anyone else. The play of ego and self-importance has no real place in the life of an Indigo.

For those parents raising autistic children, it is worth checking out Suzy Miller at http://bluestarbrilliance.com and her book Awesomism! (which I haven't read yet). She seems to be very clued in on what is going on with autism and is able to view what is going on with them multidimensionally.



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Other resources on Autism

The Autistic Revolution : Children In the Time of Awakening

As Abraham addresses several questions about autism from parents and a behavioral scientist, Source reveals the surprising role that autistic children play at this unique time in Earth history. This presentation includes material from two different Law of Attraction workshops which occurred about six weeks apart in 2008. Total Running Time: 78 Minutes CD ($15.00) DVD ($19.95)

Now the whole point of this post was to put up a video called 'Never Settle for Sameness' by Abraham channelled through Esther Hicks, so I've digressed a bit. For those who cannot watch the video because of a slow internet connection I'll put a few quotes from it below.




You live in a world that has almost gone mad with the idea of sameness.

You live in a Universe that's based on diversity, based upon difference. It's an expanding Universe not a shrinking Universe.

If we were in your shoes we would be taking pride in our renegade nature of difference, and we would try never again to conform.

And we would would reach this powerful place where we never again try to modify our behaviour based on appealing to someone elses impression of how we should behave.

We would say to anyone willing to listen "I love you but I do not give a rip what you want me to do, I'm following my own guidance system."

"Now I'm aware of my guidance system I can tell which is the right way for me to go, so you can all out there in the peanut gallery beat your drum, make your laws, make every decision in the world about who you think I should be, but I am finally being the me I came to be, I'm following my own bliss."

Not one of you intended to be suppressed. You all intended to find your path and let your light shine in your unique way. And as you compare yourself with each other you lose track of what way IS your way.

But as you listen to the way you feel, as you listen to your gut, then you can tell what way is your way.
And we have never known anyone who was ever happy doing something that somebody else wanted them to do.

If you are not satisfying your own dreams, you are on the wrong track. You must follow your dream. You cannot be a cog in the wheel of somebody elses dream.

The Universe will support you.
Find your dream.
And follow it.
And tell everyone else to buzz off.